Are you idolizing your partner ?
Its no secret, we all desire to love and to be loved,
and then..you find that one person,
Who sweeps you off your feet,
Skips a heart beat,
Makes your heart sing a song
And finally, life seems all so sweet !!!
But soon this admiration and adoration turns into blind idolization.
You must have heard the phrase, “ Putting someone on a pedestal.”- where you tend to put the entire spotlight in the relationship on that one person only.
Your small - big plans, goals are all about them.
You may even think, without them, your life has ‘no purpose and no meaning’.
You neglect your own needs, wants & desires .
You begin to make this one relationship your all time priority and the other important relationships in your life take a complete backseat.
Your self esteem & self worth relies completely on them.
If they make mistakes in the relationship ( come on..they are humans they are bound to make mistakes!! ) you either don’t see them or see yourself making excuses for them. You may even blame yourself for what they have done or even highlight your own shortcomings.
You allow them to make all the important decisions.
You are all accepting of them even if they have breached your relationship ‘ deal breakers’ ( huge red flag!)
And the list can go on ……
Putting someone above you..all the time.. is harmful and could stem from several reasons, such as, poor self, past relationships etc, which of course would need deeper exploration.
Relationships are no competition zones.
There is no one above or better, we are just different :)
And we both are equal.
So its time to bring the person off the pedestal, let him or her continue to stay in your heart :)
So, let's begin to share the spotlight!!
Keep Shining :)
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